Tuesday, February 3, 2015

Dogs and Babies, Part Two

Good morning! How are you guys doing?

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Things are good over here. Have you tried the Hasselback potato yet? (included in reverse shepard’s pie and kale salad) I am a fan.

Onto a little heavier topic.

When Ina was a newborn, I wrote a post about how having dogs and a small baby was difficult for me. When i wrote that post I thought that as Ina grew, taking care of our dogs would become easier.

Unfortunately, the opposite was true. As Ina became mobile, she required even more of my attention. My lack of attention led to our dogs acting out, escaping the yard every possible chance they got, barking and howling when I had just put Ina down for a nap, digging into the dirty diaper trash, and going to the bathroom in the house often. I would get frustrated with them and the cycle would continue. 

 When I became pregnant again one of my first thoughts was that having a toddler, a newborn, and two dogs was going to be impossible. I know there are so many families that make it work for them. Maybe it is us, or maybe it is our dogs, but it didn’t work for us. t started thinking about our options, but didn’t really pursue anything.

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However, an option pursued us.

One day, the dogs got out of our yard and found themselves over a mile away from home at a very nice woman’s house. This woman fell in love with Lily, our girl dog, and told the animal control officer that she would love to keep her if it was an option. The officer mentioned this to me, and I saw our opportunity to help our situation and immediately discussed it with Dan. Making that decision and sticking to it was much harder than I thought it would be. We knew we didn’t like how things were going, but changing it seemed so sad.

 

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It was particularly sad because Lilly is a great dog. If we had only her, I am fairly certain that our dog troubles would be minimal. Her only problem is that she loves a lot of attention. She wants a companion around her all the time, which is so sweet, and I had hoped that Ina would be that companion for her. However, Lilly was always more interested in me than Ina, and my attention is in short supply.

 Dan and I agreed that giving Lilly away to someone who had the time and desire to truly pay attention to her would be best for us and best for her.

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The woman called me a few days later and picked Lilly up that evening. Although we knew we were making the best decision for our family and for Lilly, Dan and I cried when they drove away.

That was three weeks ago, and we have adjusted well. 

I finally stopped sticking my head out the back door and yelling for her to come inside.

Ina stopped sitting up in bed in the middle of the night asking me where Lilly was.

Aumlette, our 10 year old male beagle, actually behaves better as a solo dog. He has always been independent and doesn’t seem the least bit concerned about Lilly’s whereabouts. 

We plan to visit Lilly soon, but want to make sure both she and Ina make the adjustment well before causing any confusion.

A few years ago I would have never believed a future-me would have made this decision. However, a lot of things change when you have kids. This is one of those things.

6 comments:

  1. I know I told you before- but I completely understand and agree with your decision. You have to put your hooman family first.

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    1. Thanks for your support girl! I honestly don't know how you do it with 3 dogs. You are super impressive! <3

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  2. Ohhh what a heartbreaking story, but it sounds like you made the right choice. I loved reading this, even though I haven't had a dog since I was 14 (we owned a cocker spaniel). Thanks for sharing!

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    1. It was sad, but it kind of? has a happy ending, at least hopefully. :)

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  3. How heart-wrenching. I can't even imagine what you are going through. I could never part with my pooches. But I don't have a child (or two) in the mix either. However, it sounds like this was the *perfect* solution for you: you found someone who loves Lilly and can take her in and give her the attention she needs, Aumlette is better behaved and Lilly isn't so far that you can't visit. It sounds like a win-win to me.

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    1. Thanks Carrie! If someone would have told me that I was going to give away my dog(s) after I had kids, I would not have had kids. Ha! It is crazy how things change and yes, it was a "perfect" situation, at least as perfect as it could have been. Now if I could only get Aumlette to stop peeing in Ina's room...

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